ABOUT REUBEN
Therapist, Husband, and Reformed Conflict-Avoider
A decade helping men in therapy.
Fifteen years working on my own marriage.
I’ll show you what actually works.
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Over the years, I’ve worked with men in all kinds of situations.
Some facing a recent crisis, others who’ve been quietly struggling for a long time. What they all share is a desire to change their lives, shift their focus away from work, and transform their relationships.
LET ME HELP
I’ve invested years in honing the right tools to help you improve your relationship with practical, evidence-based strategies.
Education &
Credentials
→ Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC)
Licensed in mental health treatment with 10+ years of experience working with men in relationships
→ Master’s Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy
Specialized in relational and systems-focused therapy
Advanced
Training
→ EMDR Trained (Advanced Trauma Treatment)
Uses proven techniques to reprocess trauma and repair relational wounds
→ Externship in Emotionally Focused Therapy
Evidenced-based training in helping couples break negative cycles and rebuild emotional connection
→ Certified in Applied Neuroscience for Treating Anxiety
Integrating brain science into practical emotional support
→ ECOPSYCHOLOGY CERTIFICATE FROM PACIFICA GRADuate Institute
Combining psychology and ecology to promote healing through nature
→ NeuroMeditation for ADHD, Anxiety, Depression, and PTSD
A brain-based approach to emotional regulation and focus
→ Racial & Generational Trauma: Somatic Interventions for BIPOC Individuals
Trauma-informed care with cultural sensitivity
I’ve been there
MY STORY
Creating relationships has always come naturally to me. But knowing what to do when my wife said, “We need to talk”?
That was another story.
Like a lot of men, I was taught to avoid conflict and keep the peace. I’d nod, say, “Okay, you’re right. I’m sorry,” and hope the tension would go away. That’s just what men do, right?
No, because that’s not real partnership.
Modern relationships need more than passive apologies.
They require men to understand their emotions so that they can communicate honestly. But as a cisgendered white male, my model of masculinity didn't include emotional fluency.
Thankfully, I have a degree in Marriage and Family Therapy.
And so does my wife.
But even with all that training, navigating conflict in my relationship took resilience and a lot of work. Over time, I learned to recognize my emotions, stop my automatic reactions and change the unhelpful patterns I used to fall into.
Vulnerability is weakness?
Whoever said that has no idea the strength it takes to feel feelings and talk about them. Doing this relational work took more courage and determination than being a college athlete.
And it was the most life-changing decision I’ve ever made.
LEARN FROM ME
I help men skip the guesswork.
Authentic relationships is my life’s work, personally and professionally. But you shouldn’t need a master’s degree, 15 years of marriage, and a decade of clinical training to figure out how to be a guy in a relationship.
If you’re looking to deepen your connection, this work gives you the tools to move forward.
“I always feel heard and understood during our sessions.
He is an incredible therapist who truly listens and provides thoughtful guidance.” -E.M.
LET’S TALK
Wherever you’re starting from, I’ve got your back.
If you’re ready to stop circling the same issues and move forward, I’m here for the next step.