ADHD in relationships
ADHD, Marriage, and the Struggle to Stay Connected
If ADHD has been controlling how you feel about yourself in your life or marriage, you are in the right place.
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For a man with ADHD, one of the hardest things to hear from a partner is,
“You don’t care about me,”
…after he has forgotten an important detail or lost track of time. The truth is, you care deeply. But ADHD symptoms can make it hard to show it in ways that build connection and trust.
How ADHD
Affects
Relationships
Difficulty following through on promises- Becoming hyperfocused or distracted leads to missing the original commitment you made.
Emotionally going offline- Feeling lectured or reprimanded causes you to check out and wait for conversations to be over.
Sensitivity to criticism and Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD)- Even small comments can feel like personal attacks.
Emotional awareness is tricky- You don’t always know how you’re feeling until things boil over.
Shame is BIG- It is hard to connect when you are always beating yourself up or feeling misunderstood by everyone else.
Over time, these challenges can impact all types of relationships and most importantly your self-esteem.
LET’S GET THIS OUT OF THE WAY
Therapy with me will never be about:
TRYING HARDER
You’ve been trying harder your whole life. Therapy helps you try differently not just more.
FIXING YOU
There’s nothing broken. So there is nothing to fix. Just things to process, release and accept.
CHANGING YOUR
PERSONALITY
Who you are at your core is just fine. We will help that version of you come through more easily.
We find tools that actually fit how your brain works rather than chasing “normal,” which is outdated and unrealistic for most people anyway.
“I have been able to maintain a positive feedback loop and manage anxiety about what people are thinking about me.”
-B.H.
Therapy That Helps You
Regulate & Reconnect
I combine practical strategies with NeuroMeditation, a brain-based approach designed to support focus, emotional regulation, and ADHD brain function.
This is therapy tailored to your wiring, not a one-size-fits-all plan.
Together we’ll work on…
✓ Managing reactivity and emotional storms
✓ Creating systems for follow-through
✓ Communicating clearly—even when you’re overwhelmed
✓ Learning how to repair trust after missed cues or emotional disconnection
✓ Reducing shame and building belief in yourself
✓ Cultivating focus and calm through ADHD-specific meditations
“Reuben has helped me stay focused.
My sessions this year have helped me navigate several work and personal hurdles. As a result I'm ending this year in a much better place than I was a year ago.” - J.A.
You have the power to reshape
your relationships.
ADHD doesn’t need to define your love life or friendships.
If you’re ready to learn how to regulate, communicate, and design a life that works better for you, I’m here to help.